Tadpoled - Sexual Attraction

Getting a phone number is easy. It’s so easy, there shouldn’t even be advice on how to get them. However, people at various points decide to detach the ‘number closing’ part from the rest of the experience. They run experiments and see what behaviors get the best phone numbers. Thus we have these methods that when exposed seem trivial and manipulative albeit effective.

There is an easier way. It’s natural, it’s compassionate, and it’s respectful. Best of all, it works better.

Stay in the current moment. Evaluate whether you even want this girls phone number. Do you feel an attraction towards her? Is there an energy building between you? Do you have similar interests in which a mutual activity is even appropriate?

Stop thinking about getting a girls phone number (or kissing/intercourse/whatever). That’s just weird. Why do you even want some random girls phone number? Do you have plans to hang out sometime? Is there some pressing matter which needs to be discussed over the phone at a latter time? Or are you really sitting there planning your first date, kiss, marriage, and children’s middle names?

Focus on the interaction. Think about making the conversation fun and explorative. Explore each others personalities in exciting ways. If you truly form a connection, she is not going to let you just walk out of her life without giving you her phone number. Maybe she happens to be super shy, so you can ask. You’ve just spent time getting to know her, you should be able to read whether or not she’s going to just burst her phone number out when the tension gets to high. If you’ve really built a connection, she’s going to readily give you an accurate number for her phone, which she’ll use to return the call promptly. You could probably even say “hey babe, can I get your digits?”

Here, right now, in what may be your only chance in a lifetime to chat with this beautiful girl, is where your attention belongs. She may have a fiance, be flying back to spain, or realize you’re some creep who reads websites about seducing women. Concentrate on the current moment, build attraction and create tension. Closing is easy.