I went on a rampage tonight of making up bullshit pickup techniques. Once again, this hasn’t been field tested, and is pure bullshit out of my mouth. You’ve been warned.
This one I call the artificial kiss close. To test a girl’s buying temperature, move in like you’re going to kiss her. If she closes her eyes, well, she’s warm. If she moves her head or backs away, she’s not interested.
Well what do you do from there? If you want to kiss her, hell, kiss her. I personally think it would be more fun to tease her, to not kiss her when she is expecting it, and raise the tension level. The kiss will be that much hotter in a few minutes.
If she backs away, pretend like you were going in for a hug, punch her in the arm, neg her, start attraction all over agian.
Sifu expanded this with this jem… After you do the artificial kiss close, go in, hug her, and pull the back of her hair evolution phase shift style.
This is a technique that I’ve heard before, although I can’t remember who credit goes to and I’m too lazy to look it up.
You lean in for a hug, then pull back. Start triangular gazing (eyes, mouth, eyes, mouth) slowly, while giving a physical IOI (like biting your lower lip). Continue the conversation, and repeat the hugging and triangular gazing. You can lean in like you’re going to kiss, then turn at the last moment and smell her neck or hair. Every time you pull back, stay a little closer. Eventually she’ll lean in and kiss you.
One good way to progress to hugging is to use it as screening: “I can only hang out with someone who gives good hugs. How good are you?” Usually the first hug is weak. Even if it isn’t, bust her for giving lame hugs and say “Here’s how you give a good hug!” Wash, Rinse, Repeat.
You can also throw in a Style SOI/disqualifier: “I’m trying so hard not to kiss you right now.” to speed things up.
This works in practice - very well. The trick is to get in her space and make her really feel “he’s going to kiss me,” but don’t commit so far that you end up reaching - leave just a little distance and mystery. When you feel like you really want to go in all the way, stop, and hang it out there for just a sec. (It works really well and dials up the attraction.) She’ll let you know, either by moving back or out of the way (then go for the hug/ neg - have a super-solid Plan B), or closing her eyes and meeting you part of the way.
And if she wants to be kissed, I would kiss her - but really short & sweet (no tongue thrusting, and be the first to break it off), and then look right in her eyes while you’re very close. She’ll probably then give you a “kiss me again” look, and the close eye contact is powerful, so enjoy that for a few seconds. THEN you lean back, go back to drinking, talking, etc. By not kissing her, shes going to think you wussed out, unless you can really communicate that “I just kissed you without kissing you” vibe. But kissing her sweetly, showing her you’re attracted to her, and then pulling away shows you have total self-control and really amps up the trust and attraction. Let me know how this works for you in the field.