I’ve been debating about when to tell girls I’m a PUA, and I’ve come to a conclusion. I’m putting it right out there. I’m not going to introduce myself and say “Hey I’m tadpole and I’m a PUA.” But I’m certainly not going to hide it. Eventually I’m going to say “Hey, I’ve got these websites that I do in my spare time, a couple of which teach men how to be better with women. You should check them out, they’re pretty cool.” I think pickup is fascinating subject, and I bet girls would love to hear about it.
A lot of good comes of these websites. I
m helping men become better men. I’m helping that nice guy that girls say they want make him self attractive to the opposite sex. Girls, I’ve heard it from all of you, that you want the nice guy, but you want the excitement of the bad boy. That’s exactly what a PUA is. A PUA is the nice guy who was sick of sitting in the corner too afraid to approach you, who was smart enough to analyze the behavior of the players and use it for himself.
Ladies, my name is Father Gucci and I’m a PUA. My journey as a PUA has allowed me to learn the skills to translate my fun and lovable personality to the opposite sex. Growing up as a chubby science whiz I never learned how to portray those qualities. I’ve been blessed to be sorrounded by a community of men who have shared my experiences and have allowed me to learn to overcome my social fears. I’m happy to say that I’m finally able to show my character without shame.
It seems like you’re just throwing out ideas here, but for the hell of it you might try out some variation of “Hey I’m tadpole and I’m a PUA” to find out what happens. All my inclinations point towards the subject line and that statement as a stronger, more honest position. What follows reads like you’re rationalizing and intending to spin it. If you do have experiences which more support what you were thinking, I’m curious to hear.
Gucc,
Hell yeah bro.
Allure,
You’re right, I am throwing ideas out. It’s also quite possible I’m rationalizing it too, thats what defense mechanisms are for
. I like what you’re saying about keeping it as a solid frame. My intentions are to be honest, as I’m sure you probably know from reading this blog. It’s good to keep that in check, thank you.
As far as experiences, I was at the club the other night sitting next to a girl. We chatted, she told me she had some sort of turn key website businesses. I said, “Hey, I have some websites too, a couple of which teach men how to be better with women.” Immediately she was curious. I explained and a few minutes later she asked for my phone number.
It’s cool, but you might make it harder for yourself to game chicks.
(higher ASD —> LMR, etc.)
BG,
Yeah… That’s definitely a concern. I don’t want to make my life any harder than it needs to be. I think it’s really a neccessity if I want to build an open and honest relationship.
I haven’t had much issue with that in the past (ASD/LMR) as girls generally trust me and are comfortable around me. That is, till they find my blog, hahaha.
SIDE NOTE:
ASD: Anti Slut Defense, where a girl doesn’t want to sleep with you because she feels like a slut
LMR: Last Minute Resistance, where a girl starts getting with you, but stops at the last minute
Another thought to add to the mix:
Is pickup something you do or who you are? If it’s something you do, then it’s not your identity, and you can tell women or not. If it is, then go with it, because it’s a part of you.
SPG,
I like it. Pickup is something I’m interested in and definitely not something I am.
Just chiming in with a chick opinion: I definitely agree being upfront is the way to go on this issue.
You might want to think about using Venusian Artist instead of Pickup Artist. A lot of people (including guys) don’t know what a Pickup Artist is and assume it’s a kind of con artist and that you trick women. Venusian Artist is good because a chick would probably not know what that is and then you can educate her and demonstrate that you know what you are doing with women.
There’s a big difference between tricking women and knowing what you are doing with women. The latter is a lot more attractive! Women would rather not sleep with a guy who tricked her and turned out to be a loser in the morning. But sleeping with a guy who knows what he’s doing is just a whole different story.
Tadpole, I think you are playing with fire, for two reasons.
First and foremost, your crew. Sounds like you’ve got a great group of guys you roll with, some, or more likely MOST of which do not wish to have their status as PUA known by girls they are connecting with.
I’m sure you spend time in mixed groups with them, i.e. with all of your girlfriends present. Imagine a cocktail party or something along those lines where the topic comes up (likely brought up by your girl wishing to get the other girls’ opinions on it). Your crews’ girls will automatically want to know if they too are pick up artists (or ‘venusian artists’; at the end of the day I don’t think the semantics make much difference in overall perception). This could destroy, or at least taint, their continuing ability to grow the relationship they’re pursuing.
Do you want to risk corrupting your friendship with your crew in order to appease some notion of utter honesty you’ve developed?
Above you talk about a girl who was so ‘curious’ about your websites that she gave you her number. Well, I think everyone can agree: curiosity does not equal attraction. If anything, someone could be ‘curious’ in an effort to learn ways to defend against your advances, and those of your ‘kind’.
Lastly, it sounds like your true goal in all of this is to find a deep, satisfying relationship with a truly ’special’ girl. These types of girls will not be ‘curious’ about your pursuit of pickup. They will far more likely have deep reservations about getting together with someone who has a past.. and no doubt to some extent future, heavily influenced by attempting to ‘pick up’ girls.
I’d tread carefully here.
Enjoy the blog tremendously.. keep up the good work and good luck.
Damn straight. Crew comes first.
I think I’ll have to make sure I really trust the girl first. I do need to realize that I am not the only one who would pay for my decisions. It’s easy for me to go around mouthing off bullshit when I’m the only one who pays for it. It is definitely not my right to mouth of shit that would affect my friends. Thanks for bringing up this point.
However, I do think a truly ’special’ girl won’t care about this website. Hopefully the girls I find will be solid enough and open minded enough to understand.
I am…intrested in the ‘art’ of pickup..or whatever you call it. I dislike pickup artist even though I think they’re interesting. And as far as I know….there is no suck thing as a nice guy. And you can hardly find a bad boy..not that I would be interested in one. My comment might be confusing, but it describes the way I feel.
Dream_Queen’s freudian slip of, “…no suck thing as a nice guy” cracked me up.