I’ve been wrestling with a lot of feelings towards casual sex and having multiple partners. To give a little background I want to tell a story.
When I was 20 I had a roommate with a long term girlfriend. He had been dating her for several years but still slept around with random women. I thought to myself, now that is a good idea! I’ll get a girlfriend that I can sleep with all the time, then I will just pickup random ass as it comes a long. So, I found a pretty girlfriend to sleep with on a very regular basis. And I found a really smart math major (I have a thing for smart chicks) to sleep with every other week or so. And I found really slutty fun party girl (I have a thing for unstable chicks) to sleep with every week or so as well. And then I found a little raver girl (I had a thing for little raver girls) to sleep with. Mmmmm…
And then I grew remorseful and broke it off with the steady girlfriend. I didn’t feel right sleeping around on her constantly.
Now, I know the argument, MLTRs (multiple long term relationships) are about honesty. They aren’t about cheating on your girlfriend. They are about making solid statements of your intentions and attracting women who are accepting/encouraging of that lifestyle.
Through this experience, and many others, I’ve realized it’s not just females that build attraction after physical intimacy, I do as well. After I broke through the ‘conquesting’ phase of my sexuality, I came to a place of acceptance that intercourse holds more meaning to me than trying a new girl. What I do phsyically is an expression of my emotions and my emotions are expressed physically. My penis and my feelings are one… Ommmmmmmm…
I know what you mean on this post man!! I was dealing with the same problems as well. I had my ex girlfriend and I use to mess around with 3 other girls, but I made it so that all four girls were constant FB’s and soon enough all ended up becoming attached and it really fucked with my head because I felt bad because if I did decide to drop any there would be no reason they would understand why… it would be kind of a sudden thing… MLTR’s need to be honest because things start going wrong when they aren’t.
Definitely. Lieing and manipulating got me no where (well, other then laid by a few girls).
LOL, that’s just funny.
It’s like that passage in Neil’s book how his penis had feelings as well.
Anyways, I go at in the reverse. I’ve done the 5 year LTR, almost marriage, young love, yada yada yada. At my current moment in life, I’m not looking for relationships or anything long term. Some time down the road, sure, but not now.
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